I am a jealous person...well, I never said I was perfect

"Jealousy typically refers to the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that occur when a person believes a valued relationship is being threatened by a rival. This rival may have no knowledge of threatening the relationship."

So fear it is! Now, there is no way to escape fear, as Frank Herbert once said:

"I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain."

Then facing my fear will help me with my issues of jealousy. Good, I have something to start with.

Next question will be, how do I face my fear? I normally do two distinctive things:

1) I go to the one I love and explain what I am feeling. That conversation normally leads to reassurances about what she feels about me... and a whole load of "fgs, you are silly!" and more colourful expressions along the way.

2) I go and meet my "rival". After all, in my mind, he is the "enemy". The result of the meeting usually goes one of two ways. I either like the guy, so I start to relax and began bonding with him; or I confirm he's a complete jerk so I get an ego boost and stop worrying about him.

One thing I am learning about my own jealousy, is that the best response to deal with it is thru love. I do not need to get angry with the one I love to justify my fear, I just need to approach the issue from a more positive side... which, by the way, is always a challenge ;-)